A child’s approach to academic pressure is profoundly shaped by the attitudes and expectations of their parents. A clinical psychologist delves into how parental mindsets, particularly around perfectionism and stress, can either protect a child from burnout or inadvertently push them towards it.
According to clinical psychologist Meghna Kanwat, parental attitudes are a critical piece of the burnout puzzle. The process often starts with expectations. When parents foster an environment focused on “perfectionism,” the child internalizes the message that their worth is conditional on their performance, creating immense anxiety.
Conversely, parents who set “realistic goals” and celebrate effort teach their children to embrace the learning process, mistakes and all. This builds resilience and a healthier, more sustainable motivation for achievement.
The parent’s own reaction to stress is also a powerful influence. Kanwat highlights that “parenting stress and parental burnout” can be transmitted to children. A parent who models a calm and problem-solving approach to challenges teaches their child effective coping skills. A parent who reacts with high anxiety teaches their child to feel overwhelmed.
To protect their children, parents must engage in self-reflection. Are my expectations realistic? How do I react when my child struggles? Am I managing my own stress in a healthy way? By consciously cultivating a supportive, growth-oriented attitude, parents can create a home environment that serves as a powerful antidote to the pressures of the academic world.
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